3 Important Things We “Owe” to Partners and Family6 min read
When the word “Owe” is used without context and proper explanation, it can be related to negative emotions. Obligations to do this for your partner, to behave in a certain way to please your family because anything else isn’t good enough.
However, the meaning we’re trying to go ahead with is very different. By asking ourselves the questions – what do we owe our partner and family members we are drawing attention to everything we are thankful to them for, how they contributed in making us what we are right now, and how we owe them some honest appreciation for doing so.
When talking about how to owe your relationships gratitude, don’t think it’s your moral duty or job to do so, otherwise, it will feel like a burden. The act of expressing thankfulness should come from a position of love, respect, and abundance and not force and guilt.
Saying Thanks to the People That Matter
Your parents who have nurtured you with love and care since you were a child; people who would your interests before their own – they played role to bring you where you are right now. However, did you ever take the time to just express how thankful you are to them for making you their priority and helping you achieve goals? You could owe them a lot.
Your partner – the one person who’s held your hand through every pitfall, laughed with you, shed tears when you were pain, and just gave you a warm environment to escape from the stress and anxiety of the outside world. Have you ever considered showing appreciation to them for holding onto you despite all the madness you can bring to the table (honestly, everyone has some kind of quirks they show in a relationship)?
The Thank-You Project: Cultivating Happiness One Letter of Gratitude at a Time is such a heartwarming and earnest book capable of having you smiling like a goofball in seconds. It will make you want to sit down and pen a letter of appreciation for formative people in your life – whether you’ve left them behind, or if they’re with you right now. Nancy Davis Kho expresses her heartfelt emotions for all the important people in her life through her letters.
Just like the name suggests, this process helps the author to gather a little bit of happiness with each letter she sends out. This can help you a great deal too. Gratitude and happiness go hand-in-hand. Notice how your partner/family member’s expressions light up when you gave them a thank you for the smallest things they did? The power of acknowledgment is great.
The delightful book will remind you of how great it feels to be appreciated, to know that your efforts are being recognized by your loved ones. When you perform the same for your partner/family member, they will be reassured that their affection and attention isn’t going unnoticed.
Appreciating Others to Feel Better About Yourself
As implausible it may sound, there is a direct link between how you feel about yourself and how your relationships are with the people around you. Emerging research has effectively proven the positive results of actively appreciating people – leading to a long-lasting sense of satisfaction and happiness in a person. Past the process of showing gratitude lies the opportunity to connect with people on a deeper level alongside growing spiritual and emotional maturity.
Changes That Heal: Four Practical Steps to a Happier, Healthier You by Henry Cloud is an enlightening experience for the readers. This book primarily focuses on achieving a healthier state of mind and everything you will need to achieve it. Identifying healthy relationships, reminding to take responsibility for what has been done, what happens when things go wrong – the author has written about everything with such care and intelligence through real life examples.
This is a Christian book with plenty of Bible references, but it’s easily comprehensible for almost everyone due to its lucid writing and how compassionately the writer gets the message across. The true process of happiness starts after you’ve radiated your positive messages and thankfulness into the universe.
The most this book teaches is grace – for the finer things in life, no matter how small. It’s a journey of self-realization and finding happiness in the true sense.
Interconnection of the Two Books to Elaborate on What You Owe to Your Partner/Family
The two books that have been recommended, in a sense, are steps one and two of attaining a higher, more spiritual level of satisfaction from oneself. We know we’ve been through appreciating others to feel better about yourself part before, but this section deals with how to continue after you’ve completed with step one.
The Thank-You Project can be considered as step one, where you’ll be expressing your gratefulness to your loved ones in your own way. It doesn’t have to be a letter like the ones the author made; it can be a text, a phone call, or something much, much grander. Something with a personal touch.
This book is a call to action – stop taking your loved ones for granted, but don’t do it out of a place of indebtedness. Do it because you would want the same if you were in their position, and because love and gratitude are two tracks of the same railroad. Focus on both to keep your relationships strong.
Once you’ve done that, you will feel a different kind of happiness one that stems from seeing the contentment on your loved ones’ faces. Changes That Heal is set to you assist you in recognizing all the ways that gratitude has freed you – from negative emotions, when you owe others, suppressed words, and the feeling of inadequacy.
The change you need to make to heal from your past wounds and move on in your life with new zeal and positivity is acknowledging the people who supported you while you processed the reasons causing those wounds. Without grace, the world is pretty cold. Without an owe to gratefulness, there’s no point in screaming the truth over and over again. That added with the dimension of time will get you to embark on a journey of inner peace and satisfaction.
In straight words that shouldn’t be taken out of context, we all owe our partners and family members respect and appreciation for being there with us on our journeys. We can’t expect to achieve a higher state of mind if we aren’t ready to accept the impact others can have on our life, especially the people that love and cherish us. Wonderfully, the benefits are two-fold – say your thanks, and that thanks will direct you on a path of healing.