Relationship Harmony: 6 Ways You Can Never Break This6 min read
While arguments are a healthy part of every relationship, if you feel a tension building up because of quarrels and anger, then you might need to read this article. We address the core issues; go through the importance of and strategies for relationship harmony to help you through this phase.
To help you grasp the concept of relationship harmony better, we suggest you read these two books:
- Interpersonal Communication: Everyday Encounters by Julia T. Wood
- Interplay: The Process of Interpersonal Communication by Ronald b. Adler, Lawrence B. Rosenfeld, and Russel R. Proctor II
Ways to Build Relationship Harmony
Developing strong interpersonal skills will help you ensure a secure relationship. Working on it may feel like a drag but it is crucial if you want success in your relationship, career, and life in general. There is a book that can help you work on your interpersonal communication; Interplay has truly moved us with its engaging approach to help readers improve their relationships. Here are a few more things that you can follow:
Relationships are built with love and compassion, you need to remember that even when you are going through a rough patch. Embodying kindness can deepen your bond as well as help you build the harmony that you crave. Instead of reacting too fast or jumping to conclusions, try to be more sensible and think from the shoes of your partner.
The real challenge is when there is a conflict of opinion, but if you practice choosing kindness over fear it will go a long way! Remember that it was love that brought you two close in the first place. Julia T. Wood, in her book Interpersonal Communication: Everyday Encounters emphasizes the importance of emotional intelligence and forgiveness to build a strong relationship.
Communicate and Prioritize Clarity
The concept of “two bodies, one soul” is a myth. Individuals still experience interpersonal problems when they are in a relationship, and sometimes channel their frustration onto one another. This hampers relationship harmony in ways we don’t even recognize until it’s too late. Communicating is the way to overcome it! And this goes through several steps.
- Set a time convenient for both and decide on a specific topic that you want to talk about.
- Stay on the topic and try to avoid past conversations as references, especially if it has a chance to bring a negative outcome
- Prioritize clarity. The last thing you need is more drama and negativity, so you don’t want to be taken the wrong way, neither do you want to misconstrued
- Practice active listening
Communication is a two-way street and for it to be effective both the parties need to engage. Try to listen and understand what your partner is trying to tell you. Instead of putting words in their mouth, confirm if you got them right. This will not only make them feel heard but it will also be easy for you to empathize with them. Studies suggest that a positive perception of interpersonal problems bring harmony in relationships.
It is unrealistic to expect that ALL your needs will be met by your partner. A gentle reminder: your partner is only a human and so are you. Even in a relationship, you are separate individuals and are entitled to your own set of expectations. However, you have to meet your partner halfway. Compromise is central to fostering healthy and mature relationships.
To be a supportive partner means that you will sometimes have to respect your partner’s choice even if you’d rather have it another way. But of course, it applies to your partner as well. If you are going to fight over something, it might as well be worth it. So you need to be mindful about it and ask yourself if you really need to put your foot down.
It is essential that you take responsibility for your actions. If you catch yourself in the middle of a witch hunt, remember that it is you who is ultimately in charge of where you choose to invest your energy. If there is one thing that’s certain in your relationship, it is that it will change, inevitably. Now it is upto you to decide if it will be for the better or worse.
Having been in a relationship for too long might make you so enthralled in your partner’s company that you forget to take your me-time. For a minute there, it may feel very exciting to be constantly in the company of another but if you don’t take little breaks by yourself every once in a while, you might meet an element of suffocation. It is okay to work on your personal growth while you are growing old with another. Personal evolution will only take things uphill, both for yourself and your relationship.
Go Easy on the Expectations!
Remember when you were a teenager and so firmly believed that it is only a matter of time before you meet the partner of your dreams? That your person will play drums, knows all of your favorite Beatles songs, writes love poems and sonnet, is in the school football team, goes to model UN, and has a secret ring above their head? We hate to break it to you but you will have to let go of that dream. People aren’t perfect and in order to sustain a healthy relationship, you will need to release your expectations. Letting go of the ideals set by society would be a good place to start.
Two Books You Should Read
We love Interpersonal Communication for its unified and rich introduction to the principles and approaches to developing skills of interpersonal communication. It focuses on a multicultural society, bringing out the importance of interpersonal skills in people’s regular encounters. It is an easy read and engaging, helping people from all walks of life.
Interplay: The Process of Interpersonal Communication by Ronald b. Adler, Lawrence B. Rosenfeld, and Russel R. Proctor II
You can think of Interplay as a handbook that will help you navigate interpersonal skills in order to build easy communication and pursue secure relationships. The book begins by highlighting mass personal and multimodal communication and goes through intersection and disability studies to emphasize the role of culture and identity in shaping positive interactions. We are impressed by its all-in-one solution to relationships, whether it’s platonic or romantic.
Meeting your partner halfway can help you deal with relationship conflicts in a positive way and build harmony. Remember, communication is the key and it will only improve if you work on your interpersonal skills. Don’t wait around for your partner to change first, if you want to see change then you should have the courage to take the first step forward and the rest will surely follow. People aren’t perfect and “dream partner” is a myth but here’s the fact: with mutual efforts, you can build a relationship as close to perfect as can be!